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“Quote this tweet with the worst words someone has said to you”

I hit the quote button and typed the words “you’re too much.” I pressed tweet and hit send before I began watching my youtube videos again.

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Until about 30 seconds later, when I realized how awful that was.

What I tweeted, “you’re too much,” yes it’s awful that anyone had ever said that to me. However, it wasn’t what I was referring to. What I found truly awful was that our first inclination has humans is to be negative. Immediately after tweeting I prayed and said, “God what’s the best thing that anyone has ever said to me?”

I couldn’t think of anything right away; so, I decided to write a blog post about it.

Naturally.

I’m sure we all know the saying, “sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will never hurt me.” Throughout our childhood we were taught that you need to rub some dirt on it and get over yourself. I have to admit, it’s a good tactic. You can’t live your whole life worrying what other people think of you because you can’t control them. Sometimes it is best to just get on with your life.

However, if we’re honest; when people use words against us often enough they hurt, a ton. Sometimes more than we allow people to believe.

Some people are visual learners, while others are kinetic learners, whereas I am a vocal learner. I learn through speaking, I process things through speaking and as someone who is speech oriented I can vouch for this. Our words matter. What you say can affect a person long after you say it.

It lingers.I quoted the tweet with, “you’re too much.” I can remember the exact moment this was said to me and exactly who said it. When they said it, it made me never want to associate with someone who couldn’t handle my personality ever again. It showed me that I am worth more than that. And it ended up being a positive experience in more ways than one.

However, I realize that not everyone is strong enough. Words like these can push you off the edge. And the consequences can be dangerous; which is why I’m using my words to, hopefully, do some good.

It was hard to hear. Although, it’s taught me that our words carry a far heavier weight than we realize. So, I urge you, be careful with your words. Treat them like money. You only have few, spend them wisely and make sure that your message is worth the cost.

After thinking on this, I did, in fact, remember a few times people said things to me that changed me in a positive way for a positive outcome.

“You’re wise”

“You’re the girl people read about in books”

“You look like Jaclyn Hill as a blond”

These are words I don’t take lightly, they mean a lot to me. Wisdom is hard to attain and the girls in books are always portrayed as genuine, intentional good people; which is all I’ve ever wanted to be. (And who doesn’t want to look like Jaclyn Hill I mean, COME ON) It doesn’t matter what people think of me nor should it. However, knowing that I made enough difference in this person’s life for them to give me three of the highest compliments anyone can receive, in my book, is a huge honor.

So, comment on this page, with the best words someone has ever said to you. Then, spread that same positivity and watch the world change.