Blossom
Break ups.
They suck.
But, I don't want to talk about that. I want to talk about something much more important and that is the flower that blooms after a cold winter.
I am someone who loves deeply. I care and my heart bleeds for the people I associate myself with. So, you can imagine, when I go through a break up it shakes me; to the core.
I had just gone through a pretty nasty one when I saw this statement, "If your absence doesn't affect them, then your presence never mattered."
Our gut reaction to a statement like this is, usually, negative. We allow it to define who we are and we over analyze it's meaning. Thoughts like, "I'm not good for other people," or "I'm hard to love," and the most destructive, "I'm not worthy" run through our minds.
However, when we gain a new perspective,
it changes everything.
The way I see it is, if it does hurt,
and I'm sure it's excruciati
ng that means it mattered.
How freaking awesome is it, that it mattered?!
My breakup was one of the worst pains I have ever felt. It broke my heart and did just that, left me broken, in a million little pieces. I was angry, hurt and had no room for any forgiveness.
I spent quite some time putting those pieces back together. However, now that I have. I feel so lucky that, that time in my life mattered. It meant something to me and it played a significant role into the women I have become regardless of if it did the same for him. I didn't waste my time. It was worth it.
He was worth it.
I don't want it back. It was painful and at one point I didn't think I'd ever be able to get over it. I thought I'd be stuck in that place forever. Although, I will say I wouldn't give up this girl.
This Kristie is kinder, funnier, she has more substance, she's more considerate, she is tenacious and no longer afraid, she has high expectations and she finds joy within the pain. If this is the product of pain, count me in.
I changed my perspective on such a negative statement and a mostly negative circumstance and I have found a great peace in that. I've found a calmness amongst chaos, I feel better, I'm new and just happier. I've blossomed.
So, I encourage you to do the same.
When you face a situation that just seems too much to handle remember that pain is where growth happens. Change your perspective, forgive others and most importantly, forgive yourself. You're human and that's okay!
Besides, only the most beautiful flowers will have a few thorns.
Just watch how you grow and what you blossom into.
They suck.
But, I don't want to talk about that. I want to talk about something much more important and that is the flower that blooms after a cold winter.
I am someone who loves deeply. I care and my heart bleeds for the people I associate myself with. So, you can imagine, when I go through a break up it shakes me; to the core.
I had just gone through a pretty nasty one when I saw this statement, "If your absence doesn't affect them, then your presence never mattered."
Our gut reaction to a statement like this is, usually, negative. We allow it to define who we are and we over analyze it's meaning. Thoughts like, "I'm not good for other people," or "I'm hard to love," and the most destructive, "I'm not worthy" run through our minds.
However, when we gain a new perspective,
it changes everything.
and I'm sure it's excruciati
ng that means it mattered.How freaking awesome is it, that it mattered?!
My breakup was one of the worst pains I have ever felt. It broke my heart and did just that, left me broken, in a million little pieces. I was angry, hurt and had no room for any forgiveness.
I spent quite some time putting those pieces back together. However, now that I have. I feel so lucky that, that time in my life mattered. It meant something to me and it played a significant role into the women I have become regardless of if it did the same for him. I didn't waste my time. It was worth it.
He was worth it.
I don't want it back. It was painful and at one point I didn't think I'd ever be able to get over it. I thought I'd be stuck in that place forever. Although, I will say I wouldn't give up this girl.
This Kristie is kinder, funnier, she has more substance, she's more considerate, she is tenacious and no longer afraid, she has high expectations and she finds joy within the pain. If this is the product of pain, count me in.I changed my perspective on such a negative statement and a mostly negative circumstance and I have found a great peace in that. I've found a calmness amongst chaos, I feel better, I'm new and just happier. I've blossomed.
So, I encourage you to do the same.
When you face a situation that just seems too much to handle remember that pain is where growth happens. Change your perspective, forgive others and most importantly, forgive yourself. You're human and that's okay!
Besides, only the most beautiful flowers will have a few thorns.
Just watch how you grow and what you blossom into.
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